Tantric sex is part of an over thousand-year-old philosophy that was blown over to the western hemisphere through globalization in the late 18th century. Back then, people saw it as an occult force. Around the 60s of the last century, Tantra was booming in the wake of the sexual revolution in the west. Tantra was synonymous with sexuality, openness, and liberation.
Since the 1990s, Tantra has been highly commercialized and mainly focused on intensifying orgasms and multi-orgasmic experiences. Numerous books and manuals have been published, and many self-proclaimed gurus degraded the rich tantric philosophy to a cheap sexual technique and made good money out of it. Unfortunately, the commercial perspective of Tantra has lost sight of the most important aspects of philosophy and the essence:
In tantric thinking, the human body is seen as a microcosm of the universe. The entire drama of the universe
is believed to be repeated in this body. With its biological and psychological processes,
the whole body becomes an instrument through which the cosmic force is revealed.
Today Tantra is synonymous with sex, while its true essence is about connection, being connected with yourself or you and your partner. The word itself is derived from ancient Sanskrit and means literally “loom, weave, warp”‘. In practice, Tantra is about enlightenment: transcending both the sexual and spiritual level by engaging in deeply meditative, spontaneous, and intimate sex. It’s about getting to know your body.
Just like yoga, tantric sex is about our physical and spiritual awareness. When you learn and practice Tantra, you learn to attune yourself more to your body, experience joy inside your body, and be aware of what’s going on inside your body. This will help you enjoy life and ensure that your physical and mental needs are met.
Tantric sex: solo or with partner
Tantric sex can be practiced alone or with a partner, and both forms can be highly satisfying. In fact, tantric sex is sex -as we know it- but then with the heart. Although Tantra is not focused on the orgasm itself, it is mainly about the accumulated energy that is involved in the sexual act. Tantric practice is a combination of meditation, breathing, and sex, where you “play” with the energy. You can practice this “playing with energy” in partner sex, but also with tantric self-love.
When practicing solo sex, you can also achieve very satisfying orgasms using tantra techniques. The channeled energies during tantric sex flow freely through your body and can amplify your orgasm and satisfaction. And if you have a partner, get to know his / her body too. Tantra is not only aimed at achieving a higher state of body consciousness. It can also involve creating a deeper, more harmonious bond with yourself and your partner. When you practice Tantra, you and your partner learn to be physically aware, be spiritually in the present, and exchange energy through cyclic breathing techniques that continues to grow even after you have finished making love.
Tantra allows you to explore and expand all aspects of your personality, so you really get to know yourself, but also your partner, physically, psychologically, and emotionally.
Are you interested in the practice of Tantra? Then the book Urban Tantra by Barbara Carrellas is an absolute must to read. In the book, you will become acquainted with the basic tantric principles. You will get started with practical exercises. You will learn how to fit tantric practice into a Western lifestyle.
How do you start with Tantra?
Tantra is something spiritual, which means that you focus on both your mind and your body. When you practice Tantra, you connect your body, mind, and soul. A clear mindset and willingness to get out of your comfort zone are essential to unite those parts of yourself.
Space
It’s advisable to create a nice, quiet space, so you can feel comfortable during your tantra session. For a successful tantric experience and experiencing satisfying sex, it’s essential that you feel comfortable and relaxed in a peaceful and comfortable environment.
So first, make sure you have created a nice place for yourself, comfortable in temperature, a few candles, soothing music, incense, pillows and blankets, any aids such as erotic toys, etc. In short, you know yourself and in what kind of environment you feel most comfortable in and how to get turned on.
Relax yourself
To make sure you are entirely comfortable in your own skin, prepare your mind and body for tantric sex. Depending on the situation, whether you are going to make love alone or together, you can also do this alone or together. For physical flexibility, you stretch yourself. Relaxed muscles are essential to allow the energy to flow freely later on. To relax your body, you can do a standard yoga routine, as you also pay close attention to your breath. The slower and deeper you breathe, the more and more you relax.
You can meditate to relax the mind. Many people indicate that they already have 10-15 minutes to sufficiently calm the mind. During this short meditation, you also focus on breathing to calm the body and mind.
This is how to practice solo tantric sex
When you engage in solo tantric sex, it is based on three pillars: awareness, breath, and touch. It is precisely the reason why the meditation prior to your tantric solo sex is so important: you are nice and relaxed, you have relaxed attention, and the breathing is relaxed and deep. You are now going to consciously touch yourself to become familiar with the touch and to become aware of what it does to you instinctively. As you now know, Tantra is not about the final climax but about the road to it.
Self-touch
Stroke, tickle and touch your secondary erogenous zones, such as your neck, ears, nipples, wrists, elbows, and inner thighs. Experiment with the speed, the pressure and stimulate your nerve endings. Be aware of which touches are most comfortable for you and which ones arouse you. Everything here is about becoming aware of how your body reacts to the different kinds of touches. Everything is allowed. In the meantime, keep breathing calmly, and if thoughts arise, you can let go of them, just like in meditation, and ‘let them fly over’ as if they were clouds.
If the touching turns you on, that’s fine, but you don’t have to. If it turns you on, you may move the touches to the primary erogenous zones, such as the penis and scrotum or the vagina and clitoris.
Masturbation
By stimulating your sexual organs differently, and especially by consciously doing this, you can discover for yourself whether you might find this more pleasant. For once, don’t stimulate yourself with the goal of climax. Slowly move your fingers along your labia, feel your clitoris slowly growing as arousal increases. It is interesting for men as well as women to touch their parts in a different way than they are used to. Examine your penis and see what it looks like up close or use a mirror to see yourself from a different perspective.
Feel how your fingertips move gently and build up the erotic tension. Stay aware of your breathing all the time, even while you get more aroused. Close your eyes, breathe in and out slowly, and let your body relax. Especially when you are nice and relaxed, you will notice that shocks occasionally pass through your limbs due to the accumulated erotic energy. This is a good sign as it means that the energy is starting to flow. The shocking is the release of energetic blocks in your body that get released by the energy flow.
As you constantly focus on your breath, you evoke a feeling of gratitude, grateful to have this wonderful experience. This is the holy grail in Tantra: the connection of feeling and emotion with the sexual act. By really making contact with yourself, you can gain beautiful spiritual experiences.
How to practice tantric sex with your partner
Tantric sex with your partner is mainly the same as when you do it alone, only now you do it together with a partner. After relaxing together, one can pamper the other with a gentle, slow massage or stimulation by stroking, tickling, and caressing the erogenous zones. It’s essential to keep eye contact during the stimulation and observe how your receiving partner experiences the touch. Remember that sex and orgasm are optional, not a must. It’s all about the feeling, both tactile and emotional.
Massage each other gently and lovingly. When you get aroused, and sex becomes unavoidable, take it slow to build up the tension. Keep your breathing deep and slow and relax nicely so that the energy can circulate in the body. By keeping a lot of eye contact with your partner, you can intensify the experience on an emotional level.
General tips for tantric sex
In Tantra, it’s not necessary to be naked. In fact, it can be an exciting variation to experiment with having sex together while being fully dressed. When you have sex with a partner, you can involve undressing each other in the game. The most important criterion is that you both feel good about it.
Tantric sex is about feeling, unification (both together and alone), and an upward spiral of energy. It’s about getting better, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Alone or together with your partner.
Involve all your representation systems in your tantric experience, so visual, auditory, kinesthetic (feeling), gustatory (taste), and olfactory (smell), in order to gain a fully intensive experience. You can use scented candles or incense and slow food. You can whisper sweet things to each other or use a blindfold to make it more exciting.
Especially if you are more experienced with Tantra, you can expand the experiments if you are both open to it. For example, kinky, bondage, and BDSM also have their roots in tantric principles. Consider, for example, the trust you give your partner in a role-play or the eye contact you have with your partner during a bondage session. So if you practice Tantra, you can color outside the lines a bit. The starting point is, of course, that you both feel good about it.
Tantric exercises for couples
Hand on heart
Sit cross-legged in front of each other. Make sure you are both comfortable, right in front of your partner. Both of you place your right hand on your partner’s heart chakra and your left hand on your partner’s right hand. Tune in to your heart: first your physical heart and then your heart chakra’s emotion and energy. Can you feel the heartbeat? How does the heart chakra feel? Expansive and open? Constricted? Fluttering? Vibrant? Peaceful? Try to close your eyes and focus on the connection between your heart and your partner’s hand. You can also look each other in the eye and/or apply synchronized breathing.
Yab-Yum
The man is sitting cross-legged, and the woman is on his thighs, crossing her ankles behind his back. This upright sitting position promotes alert awareness. The chakras of both partners align and allow them to synchronize with each other’s breath. By looking each other deeply in the eye for a long time and synchronizing the breathing, you become one and have a beautiful experience together. Further on in this blog post we elaborate more about the Yab Yum position.
Nurturing meditation
In this tantric exercise, you can lie comfortably spoon-spoon. According to the esoteric energy flow theory, you both must lie on your left side. Decide together which of you most needs care. In this case, let’s say it’s the woman. Since the partner lying at the back will be the giver, the man must nestle close behind her to align his chakras with hers: heart chakra to heart chakra, belly chakra to belly chakra, etc. Both partners should use pillows around the head, neck, and shoulders high enough so that the man can slide his left arm under his partner’s neck and rest his hand lightly on her third eye chakra on her forehead or on the crown chakra at the top of her head. The man’s right arm serves to rock the woman with his hand over her heart. She puts her hand on his on the heart chakra.
Breathe together in the ‘harmonizing breath’. Pay attention to your partner’s breathing and synchronize with it: inhale together, pause together, exhale together, and pause again. As the woman breathes in, she focuses on accepting his energy through her back to all of her chakras. As the man exhales, he sends energy from the chakras at the front of his body to her chakras.
Eye gazing
Have you ever noticed that prolonged eye contact can make you feel uncomfortable? We have all been socialized to avoid the intimacy of genuine eye contact, and we often feel very vulnerable to deep eye contact. In Tantra, you enter into that confrontation with your partner. And I can assure you, you will feel vulnerable, but you will also experience an even deeper connection with your partner.
Eye gazing is looking your partner (or someone else) softly, receptively, consciously in the eye for longer than is ‘socially acceptable’. If you have no experience with it, I advise you to do it on yourself with a mirror first. Take a non-functional look in the mirror and look yourself in the eye for a few minutes; soft, understanding, and notice your feelings. Smile at yourself, look at yourself in an understanding way, find out what it does to you.
Once you’ve gotten a little practice staring at yourself, try it with a partner. Sit or stand right in front of each other, preferably with legs or hands touching, and look each other in the eye. Set a timer for 2, 5, 7, or 10 minutes. Just let whatever happens to happen – many people laugh, cry, blush and have deep emotional experiences. Everything is allowed, and when the other starts to cry, you do not have to interrupt the session. It is good that it happens because it brings out unprocessed emotions. Of course, you can make agreements in advance about whether or not to interrupt.
Charging for lovemaking
An effective way to recharge energy for lovemaking is mainly based on the Battery Effect technique. Mystic Betty Bethards of the Inner Light Foundation developed this tantric technique.
In this tantric technique, both partners take turns breathing in and out. When one partner breathes in, the other breathes out. During this process, both partners visualize – you are free to visualize as it is most realistic for you – how the energy moves from one to the other. Try to imagine it as a U-shaped water-hose in the communicating vessels.
For this technique, partners sit in the Yab Yum position with their genitals pressed against each other. You can sit on the bed, on a chair, on the floor, or on the couch. While doing this, focus your attention on the point where the genitals touch.
Then visualize a ball of golden light above your partner’s head. With each exhalation, push it a little higher with the energy generated at the point where the genitals meet.
When both have this image clearly in mind, you both start breathing. When he breathes out, she pulls his energy up along her spine to the golden orb above her head. Then she breathes out, and he breathes in, drawing her energy up to his golden orb of light.
If desired, both partners can make a soft sound as they exhale. This sound is preferably low – i.e., a hmmmm or ôôôôhh – because the resonance stimulates the energy in the lower chakras.
This playful exercise takes 5-10 minutes, and you both must focus on breathing and the flow of positive energy. For this reason, it is important to perform this exercise in a state of heart coherence, where both of you are evoking and experiencing positive emotions.
You can do this tantric technique with your partner before you make love or express love to each other.
Tantra exercises for alone
You can also practice Tantra alone, but together the experience is much more intense. However, as a single person, don’t let that deter you from starting practicing Tantra. For example, you can safely visit a tantra workshop or weekend as a single, but please let them know in advance that you will come alone. You may then be assigned a partner. In addition, there are also tantra workshops for singles. For the best tantra exercises for solo use, I refer you to the article on tantric masturbation.
Tantric sex position Yab Yum
The tantric yab yum sex position is a great example to familiarize you and your partner with tantric practice. This intimate sex position is one of the most common Tantric practices and combines sex, meditation, and yoga. It allows couples to get deeply intimate with one another through eye contact, aligning of the chakras, and a physical connection.
If you’re looking for the best sex positions, this one will be on top of your list. It’s an easy tantric sex position and has lots of benefits to offer.
What is the yab yum sex position?
The Yab Yum is a tantric sex position where partners face each other. It’s commonly known as the lotus position. In the Yab Yum position, the penetrating partner sits cross-legged on the bed or the floor while his partner sits on top. The partner on top wraps their arms and legs around their partner and engages in a rocking back-and-forth motion with their partner’s arms around their waist.
Unlike the bouncing up and down motion seen in doggy style or classic cowgirl positions, the Yab Yum sex position involves a grinding motion, especially by the partner on top. The possibility of eye contact in this position also makes the interaction considerably more exciting.
To comfortably try this position, use a flat, soft surface with support for both partners’ legs, such as a bed or carpeted floor, is recommended. However, the Yab Yum position can be pretty versatile, so trying it on a chair or couch is also an option. Both partners should allow their legs to hang loosely, and the partner on top should have their feet touching the floor to support the gentle rocking motion.
Benefits Yab Yum position
Enhanced G-spot stimulation
For those seeking intense G-spot stimulation and the possibility of experiencing orgasm through this position, the Yab Yum offers a slow rocking motion that can be highly beneficial and exciting. When combined with plenty of lubrication, the gentle back-and-forth movement facilitated by the Yab Yum may be more effective in targeting the internal wall of the vagina compared to other positions like the butterfly sex position. The motion can even lead to intense and multiple orgasms for some individuals.
Increased intimacy and intensity
Because both partners can make eye contact during sex, intimacy increases. Looking into your partner’s eyes as you work your way to climax increases the arousal and intensity of the orgasm. Of course, the orgasm is not the end goal, and you can also decide in advance together to circulate the generated sexual energy.
Top partner in control
The Yab Yum sex position can be incredibly empowering for the partner on top, as they are in charge of setting the movement’s pace, rhythm, and motion. While the partner on the bottom is being penetrated, the angle and intensity are entirely dictated by the partner on top, who can move closer or further away as desired. The face-to-face position allows the top partner to control her partner, keeping eye contact.
Increased emotional connection
The Yab Yum position is tantric sex can also offer a deepening intimacy and connection with your partner, even without necessarily engaging in sexual intercourse. Vital elements of this practice involve eye gazing, physical closeness, and synchronized breathing, which you can begin practicing even with clothes on. Sitting opposite each other and trying to align your breaths can create a very intimate emotional connection with your partner.
Pompoir: tantric sex technique for an explosive superorgasm
Pompoir is an ancient tantric technique that has mostly been forgotten. This mysterious skill is still described in only a few tantric books, and even in the Far East – where this technique originally originated – few women are able to apply pompoir to their male sex partner.
What is pompoir? How do you as a woman learn to master the technique? And as a man, what can you expect when your sex partner masters the technique of pompoir?
What is pompoir?
Pompoir is a sex technique in which the man penetrates the woman and the woman massages and “milks” the man through vaginal contractions. This technique requires the woman to have full control of her vaginal and pelvic floor muscles (specifically the pubococcygeus or PC muscles).
The art of pompoir involves extensive training and experience and is also known as ‘kabazza’ in the Arabic language and is also called the ‘Singapore Kiss’. The application is unique in the way that women can direct the sexual experience and put men in a completely passive position, but allow them to have a heavenly experience.
Pompoir is best practiced with the woman on top. This allows women to sit astride their partners and stimulate the penis only through muscle contractions. Moving and thrusting the pelvis is unnecessary.
History of pompoir or kabazza
Ancient writings indicate that the tradition of pompoir was born in India and is more than 3,000 years old. At the time, it was widely practiced and perfected in Japan and Thailand. The numbers of women who still master the technique today are only small. It used to be mainly the Hindu devadasi’s, Greek courtesans and Japanese geishas, who were known to be very skilled and mastered the ‘intricacies’ of the pompoir technique to all intents and purposes.
The book Pompoir by Denise Da Costa
The book Pompoir – The Ultimate Guide to Pelvic Fitness by Denise Da Costa states that the technique is “The Ultimate Sexercise of All Time.” Author Denise Da Costa is an expert on pompoir and an instructor at the workshops she hosts.
During her workshops, she teaches participants how to train their pelvic floor muscles and vaginal muscles to master the technique. With strong, tighter and healthy pelvic floor muscles, you benefit from how to control and manipulate them. A strong pelvic floor is not only important to be able to use the pompoir technique, but also results in a more powerful climax for yourself.
The book teaches you to take charge of the sexual game with amazing sexual skills and pelvic exercises that do produce results. With Pompoir, you’ll learn the intricacies of the game and, through a personal training program, master your pelvic floor muscles so you can take your intimate moments with yourself or your partner to new heights.
Within tantric sex, are pompoir exercises the same as Kegel exercises?
Those familiar with Kegel exercises know that tightening the vaginal muscles during sex can enhance the experience for both partners. Yet pompoir differs substantially from Kegel exercises. With Kabazza, the other common to to for pompoir, the woman has extensive control over these muscles. You can see it like this: with Kegels you have 2D control over your pelvic floor muscles, with Kabazza you have 3D control.
Da Costa explains the difference as follows: “Pompoir is more complex than Kegels, which involves tightening and relaxing the pelvic floor. In our exercises, the ladies learn how to manipulate and train the pelvic muscles through contractions, squeezing, pushing and pulling. That’s where they can learn sexual skills to the point where they can squeeze, wring and twist the penis simply by tightening their pelvic floor muscles. It’s a great sensation for both the man and the woman.”
Kegels are in fact part of pompoir, and while Kegels are only about “pulling,” in pompoir you control different muscle groups independently, where you can push, pull, wring and twist.
Build Strength and Isolate Muscles
Once you have mastered the basic movement of pulling and pushing, it is important to build strength. As we know from the gym, muscles only get stronger by adding resistance. The same goes for your vaginal muscles. The stronger you are, the better your grip on your partner’s penis will be the better it will feel for you and your partner.
Just as you can see the muscles moving in muscular people, so will you be able to feel more powerful muscles. As they get stronger, it also becomes more fun and effective to use them.
There are several tools that you can use to increase resistance and train your vaginal muscles. You can use your fingers or a dildo, but you can also use a Kegel trainer, a tool that effectively allows you to build strength.
Yoni eggs are also a good option. You can use them in many different positions, allowing you to be more mobile. You can also easily tie weights or other objects to yoni eggs to increase resistance, but you can only use them while standing.
There is no set standard for the amount of strength you must have in order to perform pompoir. However, the stronger and better you are at isolating muscle groups, the better the effect.
Different tantric sex techniques
The different tantric sex techniques with pompoir allow the woman to “milk” the man, tightening and relaxing the vaginal muscles in different ways.
By forcefully pulling the vaginal muscles inward, the woman is able to “suck” the penis into the vagina. The expulsion (push) enables her to push the penis out in the same way. There is also the “locking” technique, in which she clamps down on the penis to hold it in place.
The list of different tantric sex techniques continues with terms such as the grasping ability, the pulsing ability, the squeezing ability and the twisting ability, which explain themselves by their names.
Perhaps the most intriguing name is that of the ability to squeeze. Da Costa compares this technique to milking the penis. Although this skill is reserved only for very experienced practitioners, it can ultimately be learned by anyone. This technique involves the careful and conscious tightening of certain vaginal muscle groups, which satisfies the man without his sex partner moving.
Also for the female orgasm
So far it seems as if the skills of pompoir only serve to please the man, but nothing could be further from the truth. The exercises can also help intensify and prolong the duration and pleasure of the female orgasm.
According to Da Costa, there are roughly three different types of orgasms that women can experience. There is the clitoral orgasm, which is probably the least mysterious and most accessible.
Then there is the less common g-spot orgasm, which can be achieved through vaginal stimulation involving the G-spot. And then there is the uterine orgasm, unknown to most, which requires deep vaginal penetration.
With the pumpkin exercises, most women are able to achieve these types of orgasms. It is simply a matter of training and gaining experience. You have to be willing to work for it.
Training and maintenance
Da Costa explains, “Pompoir takes practice. For some it is easy to master the techniques, for others it takes longer. Most of our ladies have the relevant muscles at strength within five months of training and then it’s a matter of maintenance. It’s just like the gym: if you want a fit body, you will have to train and maintain it.” She recommends that women exercise for one hour a day.
When exercising the muscle groups involved, it can be valuable to use tools. There are certain accessories you can use, such as Ben wa balls, dildos or vibrators, that can help you build strength and master the skills needed to practice pompoir. The accessories are not a must, as there is always an option to practice your acquired skills with your partner.
“Use it or lose it” applies as much to the strength in your pelvic floor muscles as it does to other muscle groups. Therefore, it is important to properly maintain the strength in your pelvic floor muscles. By performing your exercises throughout the day, that maintenance is quite easy. On your desk chair you can do pulling exercises, in line at the checkout you shift your weight from one foot to the other while tightening the pelvic floor muscles, etc. The real strength exercises are done at home with your tools.
Summary
Pompoir is a great technique to boost your love life with your partner. Especially if neither of you have dealt with pompoir before or have heard of it at all, the above skills are a gift from heaven.
By practicing together and patiently learning to recognize each other’s body signals, you will become a vaginal powerhouse who can take her partner and herself to heavenly states.
Tantra and acupressure to spice up love play
Everyone has their body areas where (energetic) tension is stored. In some people, this tension is stored for so long that energetic knots are created, impeding the free flow of (sexual) energy. The jaw, neck, shoulders, upper and lower back, thighs, and calves are examples of tension locations.
Acupressure is then a pleasant way to reduce or release this tension. Together with your partner, this can be a nice journey of discovery to get to know each other’s body better and massage it.
Below I describe some massage movements that stimulate sexual acupressure points and let the energy flow after stimulation. It is important to distinguish between the acupressure points of men and women. You should also keep in mind that impotence and frigidity cannot be solved with acupressure. The techniques listed below are intended to create a relaxed way of exploring the body within the playing field of tantra. The ideal application is characterized by playfulness and tenderness.
Tantric acupressure points ears, hands, and feet
The ears, hands, and feet represent all internal organs and glands. They all contain nerve endings that can be stimulated playfully and erotically and intensify love play. Be especially careful and gentle in this process. Harder and faster are not better. Tenderness and playfulness are key to arousing your partner and releasing tensions.
Acupressure points for sexual stimulation
Wrists: many people have a surprising amount of tension in the wrists. Gently massage your partner’s entire wrist, especially on the inside of the wrist where the mouse of the thumb attaches to the wrist.
Thyroid: press firmly but not hard with the mouse of the thumb into the cervical muscle (SCM/Sternocleidomastoid) just above the dimple at the collarbone to increase sexual response in women.
Liver: the liver is an organ associated with anger. According to tantric wisdom, massaging it on the right side just below the edge of the lower rib reduces tension and improves sexual functioning in men.
Nipple tips: in both men and women, just a feathery touch on the tips of the nipples creates arousal. A ‘slight touch’ is often more exciting than a targeted action to stimulate the nipples. Learn to play and keep eye contact with your partner to how he or she reacts to all your touches.
The muscles around the man’s sternum are a sensitive place where tension is often trapped, often due to an inflated attitude towards other men (ego). Gently massage this area to improve sexual ability.
Plexus/solar plexus: The solar plexus is the sword-shaped protrusion at the base of the sternum and is a function of nerve pathways. Press the fingertips gently into the pit of the stomach to arouse sexual desire for both men and women. Caution: proceed gently and carefully.
Navel: like the plexus, the navel is also an extremely sensitive junction of nerve pathways and endings. We can reduce the loss of sexual desire due to tension by gently stimulating the navel with a fingertip.
Pubic area: The pubic area is the most sensitive part of the body during sexual arousal. In tantra, the idea is to first charge the body sexually without directly stimulating the genitals. By gently stimulating the upper line of the pubic area with the fingertips, sexual tension can be increased in both male and female partners. The groin area and the front of the hips can also be gently stimulated and massaged to release the tension on the one hand and allow sexual energy to flow freely.
Lower Back: The lower back often houses enormous tension due to a sedentary existence. By massaging the lower back in circles along the spine with the mouse of both thumbs (may be firm, but communicate with your partner what is comfortable), the kidney area gets warmed and stimulated, which can stimulate sexual desire in both men and women.
Lumbar region: around the lower vertebrae above the sacrum are nerve tracts directly connected to the primary and internal sexual organs. Therefore, tensions in this part of the body directly affect sexual drive and energy. By pushing firmly along the vertebrae with the thumbs, tension can be relieved.
Intergluteal cleft and anus: Gently massage the upper part of the buttock (between the anus and the coccyx) with the fingertips to build up sexual tension. The anus, like the navel, is a junction of nerve endings and is particularly sensitive. Many people unknowingly have tremendous tension in the sphincter due to potty training in early childhood. Gently massage the anus and just inside the rectum to relieve tension in the sphincter and reduce any inhibitions in men and women.
Perineum: The perineum in men is also known as the million-dollar point. Massaging the area between the scrotum and anus reduces tension in the pelvic floor muscle and stimulates the prostate gland.
